What to Do when Baby Cries

from Minnesota Extension Service University of Minnesota

Crying is a baby's way of asking for help. During the first few months, he can't control when he starts to cry. He cries only when in need and can't stop until those needs are met or until he's too tired to go on.

Studies show that parents who responded quickly to their baby's cries had babies who later cried less often and for shorter times. As a result, these babies had more energy for learning and interacting with people.

Sometimes it may seem like your baby never stops crying. This can be very stressful and hard to listen to, but don't take your angry feelings out on the baby -- he can't help it.

Consider these reasons for why your baby may be crying:

• He might be hungry -- Babies often cry when they're hungry. If it's been at least two hours since he was fed, see if he is hungry.
• Perhaps he's lonely -- If a baby calms and stays calm as soon as you pick him up, he missed you! Remember this baby was in a snuggly womb, hearing a heartbeat for 9 months. A baby's need for closeness is very real. You can't spoil a baby by cuddling when he or she needs it -- or when you need it.
• Check to see if he's too cold or hot -- Feel your baby's back or tummy. Adjust clothing to make him comfortable. Dress baby like yourself or one layer warmer.
• He might be overstimulated -- Lots of people bouncing or talking to the baby at once may overdo it. Give your baby some calm and quiet.
• Was he frightened? Wrapping a blanket securely around him and holding him firmly may calm him.
• Check his diaper -- Some babies don't mind being wet; others do.
• Is he in pain? -- Your baby may be ill or uncomfortable because a pin is pricking him or his clothes have sharp tags or zippers.
• It could be time to take a nap -- Some babies need to fuss a bit before sleeping.

Try these things to help calm your baby: rocking, singing softly; walking with your baby or taking your baby for a ride in the stroller or car.

If you've tried everything and your baby still cries, try this: Put the baby in his crib with the sides up and shut the door. Take a shower or vacuum. You won't hear him, and the noise might calm your baby. Look in on him every 15 minutes.

Call a friend or relative and ask one to watch your baby for half an hour or an hour.

If you think your baby is ill, call your doctor or county nurse or clinic.