Probably the hardest time in parenting is when your child is a teenager and refuses to go by the house rules. Some parents are so frustrated they find themselves shouting "If you can't go by my rules, then leave!" Before you find yourself so upset at your teen that you feel like giving up on your child, take a deep breath. Your teenager needs you and the security of your home more than ever. Sit down with your teenager and have a conversation about the rules that are not liked. Tell your teen that you know its frustrating to be a teenager and not have the power to do whatever she wants. But it is still your role as parent to provide structure for the teenager's safety and well-being. So, sit down with your teenager and talk about the rules. You don't have to make a quick decision, but both of you will have more hope for getting through the teenage years if you talk about the issues that cause conflict. And it's ok to say that "leaving simply isn't an option." It's ok to say, "even if we don't agree, I'm going to be your parent, and we will get through this." Your teen may not show it, but those may be the most comforting words your teenager has heard yet.

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